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How I Shower: What it Means

Sometimes I wonder if I’m just better off not knowing things and what those things actually say about me! Not long ago I had a conversation about two and three syllable car names and learned that Corvette is not pronounced “Cor ah vette” that sent me down a rabbit trail wondering what else have I been pronouncing wrong my entire life? I think we’ve all been having a conversation with someone just enjoying the day went out of the blue,they say something to imply that something that you have thought your entire life is actually incorrect. Sometimes we verbalize it,sometimes we discreetly get out our phone to fact check, but however we handle it we’re never quite the same afterwards. OK, I’m being dramatic but this morning I imagine my surprise when I was scrolling through Instagram and realized that not everyone showers the way I do!

It started innocently enough scrolling through Instagram, making my daily social media posts. I stumbled across a post that said showering backwards is a sign of neurodivergence. I took a deeper dive, what is meant by backwards? Apparently, this means facing away from the shower. Wait surely everyone faces away from the shower when showering I thought back to any commercial or movie clip I’ve seen where they facing the shower or facing away from the showerhead. It seems to me that my memory recalls them facing the showerhead. Anyone following my OF page knows that I face away from the shower head. Are they just being polite? No one’s ever questioned this decision are all of my followers of the neurodivergent type? Are we all just a happy little band of people showering in a way that conflicts with “normal society”?

I lost the next half hour of my life, reading articles about sensory overload, how warm water on the back can regulate the nervous system and make you feel safer. That neurodivergent people do not like having water in their face that they often use a handheld showerhead and that they prefer to shower with dim lights or no lights and need to use soaps that are calming. I thought about this for a while. Do I face away from the shower for any particular reason? Well yes I don’t want water in my face. Could I adjust the showerhead so that I didn’t get water in my face or stand at a different distance to prevent the water from being in my face? Again yes but why not just shower backward and is it backward or is it the correct way to shower? I’m going to put it to a question for all of you when you shower do you face the shower or only when rinsing that side is there a correct way to shower and how will we ever know the truth?

Thank you for listening ❤️

Patsy

Life in My 50’s : Chair Yoga


First of all, I have to say I really don’t feel like I’m in my 50s but I am! I will be 54 this September. Since entering my 50s, I have begun a series of changes some have lasted and some were discarded almost immediately but many are frequently revisited! I began doing chair yoga again. This is one of those things like many things that work really well for me and that I inexplicably stop doing just as I’m seeing results. Today is day 22 again I’ve been here before I made it 100 days I was seeing results and I quit.

So I’m starting over, are you seeing a pattern? The theme of my blog starting over? We have to find what works for us in life. And for me, it seems to be chair yoga so one of the reasons I’m doing this blog post today is for accountability. Hopefully if enough people ask me about it or check on me and make sure that I’m still doing it the longer I can stick with it. Sometimes I post pictures and well meaning people will tell me that I look great just the way I am but fitness isn’t just about appearance. I mean don’t get me wrong. It is a huge motivator for me to take off a little bit of this weight, but it’s about more than that, it’s about feeling my best. It’s about being able to sit for a long period of time and stand up and not feel that crushing pain in my knees or my back. It’s about finding a cool place to hike and actually going and enjoying nature and yeah, maybe I’m a little sore the next day but it’s a good kind of sore.

So I’ve decided to commit for the summer to work out every day and by work out every day. I mean I’m going to do a workout from the fit me app. I’m not selling anything. I’m just letting people know which app I use, but I’m sure there are many great apps out there and I’ve used several different ones but this is the one that I happen to be using right now. My plan is to complete one workout whether it’s five minutes or a half hour from the app every day and keep my streak going until my 54th birthday in September. That’s my goal! In addition to those workouts, any other hikes or walks or whatever that I do we’ll just be extra. I wanna see what kind of changes I can make. I’m also working on a couple other areas of my life. Many of you know that I’m under treatment for ADHD I take a low-dose medication every day, but I want to explore other things such as meditation different ways. I can organize my life to work for me and also exercise of course is a great way to deal with ADHD. I’m making some changes to my nutrition nothing radical, but just trying to increase the amount of plants that I eat in my daily diet. Don’t worry, you’ll still be seeing my car videos of me eating at Taco Bell on occasion I’m not a saint.

I have primarily created this blog to connect with other Gen Xers online, to share the memories, the struggles, and hopefully the inspiring solutions that we are experiencing together. So if this sounds like something you’re interested in welcome I’m glad you’re here. Let me know how you’re doing and how we’re getting through “this thing called life”!

Thank you for listening ❤️

Patsy

Blogging My Adventures

This past January I decided it was time to leave my full time job as a retail administrative assistant. After 13 years with the company and very little increase in pay, I knew it was time to move on. While I was grateful for my time with the company there was little opportunity for growth, personally, professionally or financially. I’ve been working online since January 2021 and right from the beginning, I was making more online than I was making at my full-time job often putting in as few hours as 15 to 20 per week online and almost doubling my salary of my full-time job. So the decision to leave was not a difficult one, at best all my dreams would come true at worst, I’d go back and get a similar job to what I was leaving. With a little to no risk involved I started my adventure and as part of that adventure I have decided to begin writing on my blog again. A couple of years ago I had this same blog it was monetized. It was beginning to earn money, and then it got demonetized the type of content I was creating violated some of the monetization policies. I tend to be a very all or nothing person and quickly became discouraged.

So here we are 2026 my fourth month of being self-employed and I’ve decided to pick up my virtual pen and begin sharing all of my scattered thoughts with you. I am keeping it in perspective. I don’t expect this to be award winning blog. I don’t expect to have a huge following, but what I am hoping to have is a small community of like-minded Gen Xers who may have found themselves in a similar position of starting over. Starting over with the original theme of the blog and I think it’s a good one when I started this blog as I was getting divorced or in the process of getting divorced, which took a really long time, thanks to Covid and now I’m restarting this blog to document starting my career over.
I am not claiming to be skilled in any way in blogging, computers, writing or even the ability tocommunicate my thoughts clearly I don’t know about spacing and double spacing. I wasn’t even good at typing when we had typewriter so I’m gonna do the best I can to put out a blog for you and I’m gonna try to do it every week and I hope you’ll stick around for a while.

Thank you for listening, Patsy.

7 Steps To Your Dream Life!

It’s time! The past few years have been about growth and change. Preparing for this moment. I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself. I’ve gotten sober! That was my step one for creating lasting change, eliminating my temptation to disappear into a bottle after a harsh defeat. Instead facing my fears and attacking them head on. Creating the life I want for myself for the rest of my life. This blog is about what I’m doing and how I’m doing it.

  1. I made a list of what wasn’t working . For me it was my heavy drinking, and poor sleep habits (partially caused by drinking) My periods of sinking into my problems through alcohol or sleeping away my weekends impacted my ability to earn and grow.
  2. Addressing the things I was avoiding. Really looking at my health, relationships, career and finances. I made appointments I’ve been putting off, medical, dental, vision etc. I looked at my earnings, and my debt. My assets and strengths and where I could improve.
  3. Eliminating or Detoxing parts of my life that didn’t benefit me but instead wasted time. This meant cutting out some people from my life that were having a negative impact on my mental health or were time wasters especially when it came to business.
  4. This kind of piggybacks number 3. Boundaries! I work full time outside of the home as well as about 30 plus hours a week at home. I was facing some serious burnout. Having my laptop, iPad or phone with me most of the time means I’m always getting messages, texts and emails. My day job is easier to unplug from but when working from home it’s hard for me to know when to take a day off. To further complicate matters I film a lot of what we do for digital content. I’m working to creat those boundaries of private and public.
  5. Accepting myself for who I am. That is not to say I won’t continue to grow as a person but it means being comfortable with who I am. Not everyone will like me . As a digital content creator on social media as well as on multiple adult platforms, everyone has their opinions about my nails, my hair and my body, what I show vs. what I should show, what camera angles they prefer and so on!
  6. New skills! Learning new things and listening to new voices, finding experts in the areas where I want to grow or change and seeking cousel. There are a lot of people willing to share how they got where they are. Sometimes for free and sometimes through a mentorship. There are so many resources, books, blogs, and YouTube channels offering advice on almost every topic from starting a million dollar business to creating a Tik Tok video! People are offering advice!
  7. New attitude! I’m learning a lot about mindfulness these days and how we think impacts every area of life including health and finance. How what we believe often informs what we do! What do you think about yourself? Your health, earning potential or ability to learn, grow and change? There are countless examples of people that achieved their dreams and goals by first believing they could!

    Connect with me! I’m always interested in getting to know people from all over the world, I believe we can learn something from everyone!